This and That

June 13, 2011

First Fruit Harvest

Filed under: flora, parents — Tags: , , — yaadayaada @ 3:40 am

Parents on their last visit, insisted we plant fruit trees and planted a few when they were here. Now we are enjoying the fruits of their labor!








p.s. People are trying to cast their evil eye, those were the only 4 cherries we got from the tree. Of the four, two of them were half eater by some critter.:-(

March 14, 2008

10th Wedding Anniversary Family Reunion

Filed under: parents, travelogue — Tags: , , , , — yaadayaada @ 8:33 pm

Husband and I celebrated our 10 th wedding anniversary this month. We had a gala family reunion with my parents, his parents, his siblings and family, my sibling and family. We all went on a cruise. It was major fun.

But the planning was tiresome. The initial plan was to celebrate it in India with both the parents. The parents in law had to visit brother in law in the US, so decided to celebrate it in the US. Then had to convince my sister Boo and her hd to visit from Switzerland and my parents from India. Then started the venue planning. Initial thought was cruise as this will be fun for everyone. But then visa isssue crept up. And my passport was at the verge of expiring. So canned the cruise idea and decided to rent a luxury house in Florida by the beach and laze around. One of the sibling had already visited Florida and was not so keen. We almost ditched that sibling and decided on Florida when the husband found this cruise to Mexico which might not require visa. After frantic calls to all the consulate, travel agent found out that we don’t need visa as long as we have multiple entry US visa on us. After another call to parents, siblings decided on the tour date from Feb 28 through March 3rd 2008. Suddenly one of the siblings dropped the bombshell on the day of booking that they have to check with the immigration before booking. So we ditched that sibling and booked the tickets. After major praying by my mil, the sibling’s immigration issue got resolved and got her tickets booked as well.

Then I started praying that everyone should arrive at the right time for the cruise as the inlaws were all coming from snow country. Gods were summoned to keep the little ones hale and healthy for this trip. All the Gods out there should really love us, everyone was in the pink of their health. We all reached the harbor on time to board the gorgeous ship. Had great 4 days and came back home happy.

Couldn’t have asked for more for this anniversary!

Some conversation while planning this:

Me: I am tired of arranging this reunion. So many logistics.

Hus: Oh.. you can do it!

Me: Come on! What is the big deal anyway? What is there to celebrate?

Hus: It is our 10th anniversary!

Me: So?

Hus: Isn’t that a big deal?

Me: Give me one reason why we should celebrate this!

Hus: The fact that we lived under the same roof for 10 years and didn’t kill each other yet!

Me: You win! Can’t argue with that! Let me go and make the arrangements!

Hus(thinking):Finally! I can go back to my games while she kills herself making the arrangemens!

Gifts Gifts and more gifts:

  1. Beautiful stateroom decoration and cake arranged by Boo’s Hd 
  2. Matching engraved watches for me and husband from his brother and sister family
  3. Beautiful saree from mother in law
  4. Beautifully embroidered silk saree from my mom
  5. Beautiful diamond earrings from mom and Boo
  6. Matching T-Shirts from dad for everyone. Thanks to utbt for her beautiful handwork on the T-Shirts and the much needed bed and breakfast getaway card!
  7. Gift cards and matching fancy jewelery from the sil and bil family
  8. Dollar bill garland from mil and sil
  9. 10the Wedding anniversary and our names embroidered saree from dad
  10. Bracelet from husband
  11. Most important of all, the entire family’s presence on this trip

More cruise detail to follow!

July 25, 2007

Long distance parents

Filed under: parents — yaadayaada @ 5:57 am

Of late, I have been wondering what goes on in the minds of parents who live all the way across the ocean from their kids. As they get to 60 plus years of age how do they feel about their kids living so far off. These are the parents who got their daughters married off to a groom in far off land or sent their sons/daughters to far off land for education/job happily. Looks like they didn’t think through when they sent them off. I see so many parents now regretting that they sent their daughters/sons to far off land. I have seen 3 kinds of parents so far.

First kind: They would love to have their kids nearby but they are happy for their kids. So they put up a happy front and live life with optimism.

Second kind: They would love to have their kids nearby. They keep nagging their kids to come back.

Third kind:  They think it is their kids duty to be with them. They hate their kids for living so far away. They make sure they let their kids know about it and make them feel guilty. They pick up a fight every time they talk to their kids. They lead a very unhappy life and also create an unhappy environment around them.

I have seen examples of all 3 of these parents. Irrespective of what kind of  parent/in-laws one has, it is a tough decision making time for the kids when the parents need them. God forbid, I am not in the position yet. But how do others handle it. Do the kids talk to their parents about their expectations, etc., Is it always possible for the kids to stay with their parents even after they return. I mean the kids family and the parents have lived independently on their own for so long. Is it posisble for them to co-exist with ease now? I mean two women of the house under one roof.

Is the above rant meaningless and am I making a mountain out of a mole? Do we just go with the flow? I am confused.

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